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Imran
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Dec-30-05, 08:50 AM (CST)
 
"PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H"
 
   Can anyone help me as to whether there is a group dedicated to pakistani's or muslim sufferers

I would dearly like to meet someone in my position

Any help would be grateful

I feel like im the only Pakistani in the world suffering from this


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  Subject     Author     Message Date     ID  
  I'm sure you aren't the only one.. Rajahadmin Jan-03-06 1
  RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H Amanda Jan-31-06 2
     RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H WhatNext Jul-07-06 3
         RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H abi zahra Nov-13-06 4
             RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H Mimi23 Dec-03-06 5
                 RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H Guillermo Dec-09-06 6
             RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H malaika May-13-08 10
                 RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H pghnative1 Nov-02-08 12
         RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H sid Nov-26-10 20
  RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H faithxxx Dec-30-06 7
     RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H abuhusayn4000 Mar-08-07 8
         RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H malaika May-13-08 11
  RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H modestniqabi Oct-18-07 9
     RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H javaid Sep-05-09 13
         RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H safiyaclaire Oct-23-09 14
             RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H safiyaclaire Jun-21-10 15
                 marriage site for people with std's safiyaclaire Jun-21-10 16
                     RE: marriage site for people with std's javaid Jun-23-10 17
                         RE: marriage site for people with std's Zaynah Sep-12-10 18
         RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H Zaynah Sep-12-10 19
     RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H sid Nov-26-10 21
         RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H Zaynah Nov-28-10 22
             RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H mumina55 Dec-05-10 24
  RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H mumina55 Dec-05-10 23
     RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H Zaynah Jan-31-11 27
         RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H lion1 Aug-06-12 28

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Rajahadmin
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Jan-03-06, 11:16 AM (CST)
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1. "I'm sure you aren't the only one.."
In response to message #0
 
I'm not aware of any Muslim support groups and some google.com searching didn't reveal anything on the web. Is herpes a very stigmatized condition in Muslim communities? If so, that could be a factor.

"Do the Right Thing. It will gratify some people and astound the rest." - Mark Twain


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Amanda
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Jan-31-06, 02:16 PM (CST)
 
2. "RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H"
In response to message #0
 
   Here are 2 yahoogroups for muslims with herpes. I found them by going to groups.yahoo.com and typing "muslim herpes" into the search engine.

Nikah_For_Muslims_With_Health_Problems

< 5 Members, Archives: Membership required
AsSalaamu Alaikum, This group is for Muslims with various health problems who are having difficulties in finding a mate due to health related issues. This is a private group and everything is to be for this group in confidence. Wether you have aids, hiv, herpes, cancer, or any other health issues you are welcomed. My aim is for singles to find a muslim mate that may have the same problem making it easier to find a mate in your particular situation. I thought it was time for a group like this.

2 muslimwomenherpes
< 5 Members, Archives: Membership required
Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh This group is a place for Muslim women to discuss the ways in which they deal with having herpes in privacy, inshaAllah.


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WhatNext
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3. "RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H"
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   Wow, I feel for you! It stigmatized enough, I can't imagine having herpes and being muslim. I'm sure you're not the only one. When premarital sex is shunned you are likely to have most people deny it.

Good luck! You'll meet people like you I'm sure, it might just take time.

WhatNext


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abi zahra
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Nov-13-06, 05:21 PM (CST)
 
4. "RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H"
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   Wa alaykum salaam

Its not that bad.Post here if you look to get married


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Mimi23
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5. "RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H"
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   Hey Abi, I'm not muslim but I'm asian. I am going to write a reseach thesis on ethnic minorities who have STDs. If you don't mind, would you like to share your experiences with me? Perhaps, we can both exchange stories. All information would be confidential. Please let me know if you're interested. Thanks ^^


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Guillermo
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Dec-09-06, 11:01 PM (CST)
 
6. "RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H"
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   I'm not Muslim, but I sure wouldn't mind meeting a nice woman of middle east heritage.


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malaika
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May-13-08, 05:34 PM (CST)
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10. "RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H"
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   Salam walaikum,
Just recently I was diagnosed with herpes and yes it has been very difficult to get married. Telling an individual is not the problem for me, it is that they have certian expectations and aotomaticly jump to the conclusion that the STD was contracted while I was a muslim. (I am a revert by the way.)
By chance would anyone know the ruling, is it permisable for someone with herpes to marry another that does not have it?


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pghnative1
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12. "RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H"
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   LAST EDITED ON Nov-02-08 AT 03:27 PM (CDT)
 
Wa Alaikum Salaam Sister,

I actually did this several years ago with my wife. She had it but I didn't. After being married and intimate I sure I do. I researched this issue a few times and all the information I found advise that we shouldn't. As a brother, my wife had often rejected my sexual advances towards her so it left me in a difficult situation. I've been looking for another wife but it's been hard to look and be as open as I would like about this issue.

Shukrun for listening.

Salaamu Alaikum.


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sid
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Nov-26-10, 08:57 PM (CST)
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20. "RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H"
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   >Wow, I feel for you! It stigmatized enough, I can't imagine
>having herpes and being muslim. I'm sure you're not the
>only one. When premarital sex is shunned you are likely to
>have most people deny it.
>
>Good luck! You'll meet people like you I'm sure, it might
>just take time.

fyi: i got herpes as a gift from my husband. you don't have to have pre-marital sex to get it. Now I stuck with him for three years so far because if i feel him i don't know who else will marry me with my condition


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7. "RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H"
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   al salam alaykom Imran,
there is actually a site that just started recently, for arabs and basically muslims with herpes and HPV. I think you might find it helpful. Not too many people on there yet, but it's growing. It's been needed for a very long time.

http://www.arabswh.com

hope u find it useful.

-faith


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abuhusayn4000
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8. "RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H"
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   As-Salaamu Alaykum,

I'm new here and also looking to get married inshaa-Allaah. Please anyone feel free to contact me, I really could use some help! (lol)


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malaika
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11. "RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H"
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   Salam walaikum,
Have you tried the website Arabswh.com?
yes there are many non arabs there but slowly I have noticed within the past few months that there is more and more profiles.
Give it a try.

Maasalama


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modestniqabi
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9. "RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H"
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   salam walkaum wa rhamatuAllah wa barkatoh,
With like 4-5 people having herpes in just the us alone.. and Islam being the fast grown relgion.. there are going to be alot of converted sisters and brothers with herpes.. Like Me (smile) not only are they going to have a problem trying to find a spouse with herpes (wich is hard for me) but its going to be hard cus they dont have wali or marahma (protector, gardian) to help them in there search.. There is a matrominal that is for arabs with herpes (but alot of non arabs are on there) (me)and if there is not many support groups for muslims and herpes maybe you can just create one on yahoo or msn... inshAllah..

this form is soo nice ..

Zakirah


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javaid
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13. "RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H"
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   HOW OLD ARE YOU AND WHERE ARE YOU LOCATED?
I AM A MALE MUSLIM 34 YRS OLD AND LOOKING FOR FEMALE MUSLIM WITH HSV2 ONLY.


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safiyaclaire
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14. "RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H"
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   salam i read your post and I am just wondering how you are doing.I am muslim revert and contracted hsv2 from my ex three months after we were married. I understand how you feel. It was an old post so I am hoping you are ok. take care brother,

safiya


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15. "RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H"
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   there is a new website for muslims who have std's and want to marry. it is called..blessedmarriages.com. try it.


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safiyaclaire
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16. "marriage site for people with std's"
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   LAST EDITED ON Jun-23-10 AT 02:10 PM (CDST) by Rajah (admin)
 
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17. "RE: marriage site for people with std's"
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   the website does not have physicall adress and seems to be fraud to take money first. Safiya can you explain?


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Zaynah
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18. "RE: marriage site for people with std's"
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   Al-Humdulilah (All thanks is due to Allah)!

I am Zaynah, the sister who at least tried to start something good Al-humdulilah, but it didn't work out without the support of the many masjids (mosques) in the area to help those of us out here in the world. Many brothers and sisters contacted the site, but i believe that because it wasn't created like the usual dating websites, they didn't participate. The goal was not for dating or the continuance of the sister and brother to communicate back and forth without the sister's guardian or third party. I meant for it to be a permissable situation.

I didn't accept any money from any one person unless I they had a profile to review and the two parties agreed to at least review one anothers profile with the intention of meeting in the future. I created the website and paid for it myself. The donation was very cheap (ten dollars) and it was a one time fee just to assist with my monthly payments. It wasn't designed to be a regular monthly bill.

The website was difficult to keep up while no one participated. I am a sister who is currently unemployed. Perhaps I should have chosen a different organization to create a website with that may have been much cheaper. I enjoyed having that website, I still want it, but only a few people were sincere in participating.

I'm sorry,
Zaynah.


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19. "RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H"
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   As Salaamu Alaikum Brother, Eid Mubarak!
please see the last message posted in regards to this topic.
I hope you are doing well.

Zaynah.


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21. "RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H"
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   >salam walkaum wa rhamatuAllah wa barkatoh,
>With like 4-5 people having herpes in just the us alone..
>and Islam being the fast grown relgion.. there are going to
>be alot of converted sisters and brothers with herpes.. Like
>Me (smile) not only are they going to have a problem trying
>to find a spouse with herpes (wich is hard for me) but its
>going to be hard cus they dont have wali or marahma
>(protector, gardian) to help them in there search.. There is
>a matrominal that is for arabs with herpes (but alot of non
>arabs are on there) (me)and if there is not many support
>groups for muslims and herpes maybe you can just create one
>on yahoo or msn... inshAllah..
>
>this form is soo nice ..
>
>Zakirah

what is the website?


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Zaynah
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22. "RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H"
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   As Salaamu Alaikum,

Yes, I have heard of this website: Arabswh. I am on it myself, but I am quite clear with those who view my profile that I will not consider speaking with them back and forth without a wali. I am also a revert and as a muslimah revert without a dad or brother to assist with marriage can be tough because they are Christian; however, Islam informs us that we have our local Imams to be our wali. The only thing that is odd is that this person doesn't know you well like a dad or a brother; however, this is the imam's responsibility. The key is finding an Imam that doesn't mind assisting us with finding a spouse.

I have spoken with someone from that website and I had a local imam monitor our emails because the brother was in another state and of course a face to face 'sit down' would have been difficult to pursue especially regularly. The website that I produced was set up for me to sort of do the communicating between the two parties up until they were ready to meet with the sister's wali. It was supposed to be easier with having already been aware of the disease of the other individual, so this particular topic did not need to be discussed in front of others and cause any embarrassment.

Well over 2,000 brothers and or sister viewed the website. I believe the ad in the Muslim Link assisted with informing the Muslims that I was there to help if they needed it and it could have been sucessful, I believe if the brothers and sisters would have attempted to make a committment, but Allah knows best. I have contacted masjids for marriage assistance, completed forms and such only to not even receive one phone call from them. Being ignored is not very nice.

I believe the Muslims are quite aware of people like us but they just don't want to deal with the issue. Some masjids have someone to help with finding a spouse and really all they need is a designated person who can be responsible for holding the profiles of those with diseases so that their situation can be held with discretion and they'll know they have a place to go to find a possible marriage prospect.

I'm working on setting up the website again. It's a very basic website, nothing fancy. The hardest thing is letting the Muslims know I'm there and I don't mind assisting, but they have to be willing to make themselves known. They don't have to submit their birth names, just give a little information about themselves and that's it.

Zaynah
As Salaamu Alaikum.

When I get everything set up, I'll forward the website Insha-Allah.


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24. "RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H"
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   Mumina
Salaam Zaynab, I hope that when you are ready to set up the website you post it so that I can view your website. I was thinking of doing something like this myself for muslims with different STDs and not charge for the service. However I have no idea what to do, but being a herpes sufferer it is very difficult to find a partner that would understand what i have. I don't mind sharing my story or helping others that need advice as to what to do when face with this situation or challenge in life. Best of luck inshaallah everything will work out. We definately need a website for muslims w/stds.

Assalamu Alaikum
Mumina


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23. "RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H"
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   Mumina

Salaam, I don't belief you are the only pakistani w/herpes. And besides you are not the only Muslim with herpes. I've had it for 25 years and I am so use to it that I don't even let it bother me anymore. The one thing to remember is be honest with your partner. Just like there are Pakistanis with HIV I am sure there are many others with herpes. We just don't talk about it. You are not alone. Hope this help you inshaallah.


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Zaynah
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27. "RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H"
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   As Salaamu Alaikum Sister Mumina and everyone else on this chat/blog.

The website is www.blessedmarriagesinsha-allah.com.

But just as the last time I began this, many brothers and sisters view the

website but they do not place an inquiry and it may be because it's not designed like a dating site.

It's definitely not supposed to be one. People should be able discreetly enter their information so that they can be paired with someone like themselves. Perhaps the whole concept is not being grasped. How they meet should still include the sister's wali and that brother is responsible for contacting him and speaking to him man to man or brother to brother without being sneaky and talking with the sister on his own.

No pictures are posted. It's a simple website for the sister and brothers to utilize if they truly want marriage and not to play games.

Sister, I wanted to make sure I gave you the website since you wanted to know what it is. Feel free to contact me anytime. If you submit an inquiry I'll see it and contact you insha-Allah.

As Salaamu Alaikum,
Have an awesome day.

Zaynah


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28. "RE: PAKISTANI/Muslim PEOPLE WITH H"
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   Dear Zaynah,
I have just joined this web page for support. I am from Pakistan, raised here in the U.S. I acquired this condition about 12 years ago. I feel extremely lonely. I have not dating anyone or I have not think of marrying someone with this condition in my mind.
I looking for support from some of the Pakistani community who suffer from the same condition as mine.
Please let me know where to go for it.
In addition, I have went to www.blessedmarriagesinsha-allah.com but it seems like it does not work. May be a wrong address.
Pls also let me know about it.
Thanks

Lion1

SZ


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