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cantex3000
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Oct-16-10, 03:21 PM (CST)
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"Everything went too fast..."
 
   Aight so here it is you guys. All my life I have been put down about having bisexual tendencies. I just wanted everyone to accept me for who I was,and for myself to accept myself.I then went about trying to experiment with other guys to figure out my sexuality. About a month ago,I invited a guy over from craigslist, and he gave me unprotected oral sex.I returned the favor for about 30 seconds.It's just everything went so fast and I could'nt think.I felt so damn disgusting about myself.Okay so fast foward to today,I think I have herpes.I have pain in my upper abdomen,my kidneys hurt at times and my right arm and leg hurts at times.Someone please help me.BTW I did get testing and the results should be back on Monday.

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  Subject     Author     Message Date     ID  
  RE: Everything went too fast... Lenoreadmin Oct-17-10 1
  RE: Everything went too fast... starrattadmin Oct-17-10 2
     RE: Everything went too fast... C16679admin Oct-18-10 3
         RE: Everything went too fast... cantex3000 Oct-20-10 4
             RE: Everything went too fast... C16679admin Oct-20-10 5
                 RE: Everything went too fast... cantex3000 Oct-22-10 6

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Lenoreadmin
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Oct-17-10, 09:35 AM (CST)
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1. "RE: Everything went too fast..."
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   None of your symptoms really sound like herpes. Maybe you're just freaking yourself out because you kind of went out of your comfort zone.

60% of the population is going to test positive for HSV1 on a blood test. Most of them have had oral HSV1 since they were children and many people never remember getting a cold sore. If you test positive on a blood test, it is only going to tell you that you have the virus, not where you have it. Also, it might be too soon after your encounter to get positive test results since it takes up to 3 months to build up antibodies to the virus.

If you don't have an actual sore and just have all these vague random symptoms it's probably not herpes.


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Oct-17-10, 12:36 PM (CST)
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2. "RE: Everything went too fast..."
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I agree with Lenore, what you are describing does not really sound like it's herpes and it doesn't even sound like an STD.

Although I haven't been in your exact situation, I had a couple of encounters when I was younger that left me feeling physically ill afterwards. I don't really want to get into the details. I'll leave it at that the situations were consensual, but what I was doing and who I was doing it with wasn't comfortable for me.

It won't hurt to have yourself checked over to be sure that nothing else is going on that needs medical attention. But guilt/embarassment can be a very physical experience. Try to forgive yourself. It's okay to have pursued what you thought you were interested in and then discover that it isn't the right thing for you.

Obviously I have no idea whether or not you are actually gay or straight or somewhere inbetween. Lots of us stumble in and out of our comfort zone trying to figure out what works for us sexually. Some of it will work for you and some of it may never work for you. That is okay. Having an awkward sexual experience may have thrown you for a loop. But trust me, you are not walking around with a neon sign above you broadcasting the details of your encounter for the world to see.

(((Hugs))). Trust me, whatever makes you "you" is still in tact.

Be well,
Lorraine

Hoe eet jy 'n olifant? Bietjie vir bietjie.
(Translation from Afrikans: How do you eat an elephant? Bit by bit.)


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C16679admin
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Oct-18-10, 01:48 PM (CST)
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3. "RE: Everything went too fast..."
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   I just wanted to add that maybe it would be helpful to you to really think about what was making you feel ill about the encounter. For some people figuring out their sexuality is really difficult. I agree that there is a spectrum of "totally straight" to "totally gay" and a whole lot of variations on bisexual in between.

From your description, it seems like there are a few different things going on. Were you just turned off at being with a guy? Was it just feeling like doing something sexual with another guy is "wrong"? Was it the fact that you found this stranger off Craigslist? In general, do you tend to worry about STDs after a sexual encounter (some people seem to be a little obsessive or germ-phobic and get worked up after every new sex partner)?

I am female and consider myself bisexual. Whatever kind of sexual feelings you are having are OK. You don't have to make a decision NOW or definitively choose a camp immediately or anything. If you fantasize about men, fine. If you want to act on it, fine. I might worry a little more about meeting strangers for sex. That can be risky for any number of reasons, you know? Maybe hang out in areas (neighborhoods) or venues (bars, bookstores, coffeeshops) that are gay-friendly and see how you feel. It would probably feel more natural to meet someone in a setting like that, get to know them a bit. Also, pick up the local gay newspaper (lol, or is everything online nowadays?!) and see what's going on. Often there are groups or clubs, etc. you could try out to maybe meet people or find other people who are bisexual and interested in experimenting.

And, hey, if you tried it once and are completely turned off--that's fine, too.

Good luck with everything. Feel free to let us know when you get your test results back.

C.


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cantex3000
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Oct-20-10, 04:26 PM (CST)
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4. "RE: Everything went too fast..."
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   I mean I haven't got a sore or anything like that,its just,my left leg hurts and the kidney area extending my leg hurts too.And then it feels weird like it's in a bind at times.Also my tip of my penis feel weird at times.Like not a blister,just more of a slight notice that it is off.I have been to the doctor and she said she did not see any signs of herpes.Also does Olive Leaf and Echinachea three days after the sexual encounter defer the symptoms or something?Just confused...

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Oct-20-10, 05:32 PM (CST)
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5. "RE: Everything went too fast..."
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   I wouldn't worry about those supplements having any effect on whether or not you'd have symptoms or test positive or anything.

C.


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cantex3000
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Oct-22-10, 11:35 PM (CST)
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6. "RE: Everything went too fast..."
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   Aight so the doctor recommended that I don't take the test yet,she said she really doesn't think that I have a case of herpes.The tests for Syphilis,Chlamydia and Gonorrhea came back negative.But now, I have a grey painless bump right on the inside of my urethra followed by a very small red scratch on the top of my penis(so they like co inside, like one caused the other or something).It doesn't hurt at all when I pee,or ejaculate,it just something that is noticeable at sometime throughout the day.Also legs and arms still feel weird.Can you guys help me I don't know anyone else with your expertise.Please help.Anything.Thanks.

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