You may want to call the doctor to make sure that your test will be typed as in HSVI or HSVII--in the event that your results are positive. A swab/culture of a sore is the best but yet painful test to get as it will tell you the location. A blood test looks for antibodies and it takes most people 12-16 weeks post exposure to develop these antibodies that the test looks for. This type of test will tell you what you have and if typed, the type but not the location.
This virus is tricky and it may be very difficult to determine where it came from without prior testing. Even if you ask to be tested for everything, HSV is not tested for in the normal panel of testing--you have to specifically ask to be tested for it. Why? I cannot answer this and I have not found an answer as to why.
LIke I mentioned above, one in 4 women/5 men will test positive for HSVII and 90% of these people will be surprised as they have either had MILD symptoms or NO symptoms. Many more people will test positive for HSVI which is usually oral cold sores and not ever remember getting a cold sore. Oral HSVI (OHSVI) is the most contagious of HSVs in this location as it sheds (virus comes to the skin without causing an outbreak)more often than HSVII does in the genital location. If you have received oral sex from your husband (or anyone else ever) and they have a history of oral HSVI, then it is possible that you have HSVI in the genital area. Anyone that has sex can get HSV of either type in either location. This is why it is important to know your type.
If this is truely a new virus to you, then you may have not developed the antibodies as of yet and it could be possible to spread this to other locations on your body, but this is very slim.
Different people have different triggers that can cause an OB (outbreak). I have had this virus for over 20 years and I live at the beach. I also start the tanning season out by going to a tanning bed, except for this year. You may need to test this out to see if it is a trigger for you or not.
Seperate bars of soap--I had a man live with me for years and we both liked different brands of soap so we had our own bars. As an adult, I have never shared a bar of soap. I think just for hygienic sake, I would have my own bar of soap as well as my own wash cloth and towel. Once you have the established antibodies, you cannot reinfect yourself with what you already have in another location via a wash cloth, but I would not tempt fate so to speak. Soap and water will kill the virus and the virus dies once it dries out. With or without HSV, I would never use a wash cloth on my genitals and then use it on my face, but each person is different.
As soon as the sores heal you may resume sex. You want to avoid sex during an OB as this can be painful, but an open sore is an openning to the body where other germs may enter. There are many couples here that have had children and one partner has HSV and the other does not and it has been this way for years. You can still have an extended family.
I know this is much information, but the first thing you need to know is IS THIS HSV and if so what is the TYPE. Once you know your type you may become better educated on it.
Let us know your results and better yet, you may post them here and they can be better explained to you so ask for a hard copy of your results.