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Member since Aug-9-13
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Aug-09-13, 12:49 PM (CST)
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"Feeling Terrible..."
   ...because I never thought I'd be put in this position.

Embarrassment, loneliness and unhappiness are my best friends right now. Not that I'm a depressing person to be around - of course I'm still a very sociable, happy and interesting guy, but I feel so out of place after being put in this position.

Okay, so I haven't been diagnosed YET, but I'm positive it's HSVII. White, hurtful bumps on my genitals that FREAKING KILL when I even rub it on my leg. They're so painful, especially in the shower and this is all a surprise to me. I was originally diagnosed with molluscum contagiosum and they're nothing. In fact, the doctor removed them with ease and they were gone within weeks. But then rash-like red spots started appearing on my genitals and BAM they started killing me and become white, blotchy spots. It looked awful and I was absolutely devastated. Went back to the doctor, he looked at them and gave me an "uh-oh" face that made me cringe. He'd mistaken them for molluscum by accident then when they turned into full blown herpes (I HATE THAT WORD) he said I need to be tested for HSVII.

The results will be in by next Wednesday...

I feel like an ass hole. A 20-year-old good-looking guy that NO ONE would expect to have this STI and I need to go back to college in 2 weeks. I have a huge social circle both at home and at college. I work at a restaurant as a host and every waitress absolutely LOVES me and I've made probably 25-50 more friends this summer alone. I hate that this whole thing is making me feel inferior and not want to have sex. The molluscum were there for about 4 months and I didn't have sex that entire time. NOW THIS?!?

That's my story, I guess. Or whatever you want to call it.

I plan on telling no one (except family, of course) about my "condition" but I had a sex question...

I read that if I had sex (with no OB) and wore a condom, that there's only a 1% chance of passing on this infection.

I plan on having sex in college but don't want to tell anyone that I have this. How should I proceed? Any advice on the whole sex thing? I just feel like I'll never have good sex again. I wouldn't even like a girl go down on me even without OBs because that's too risky of her getting HSVI.

I hate this.

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Aug-12-13, 11:45 AM (CST)
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1. "RE: Feeling Terrible..."
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   Why are you positive its HSV2 when you don't have the results yet? Anyway your comment about not telling anyone made me chime in. If you do indeed have herpes, you should always tell anyone you plan on having sex with. Yes the risk is low of giving it to someone if proper precautions are taken, but a person should always be given a choice. It goes to the issue of trust in a relationship. Your social life should not be impacted. Herpes should not change who you are or make you feel inferior. Herpes is a very common virus, so don't let it change who you are. I've probably had herpes since I was 20 years old and now I'm 58 and it did not change my life. I married, am widowed, dated and am now in the best relationship of my life and we've been together almost three years. Don't give herpes power and control of your life.

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Aug-13-13, 10:00 AM (CST)
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2. "RE: Feeling Terrible..."
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   Other than us here or a doctor, the only people you have to tell is who you may put at risk--someone that you are going to have sex with. You do not have to tell your family that you have HSV as you have not gotten your results yet.

Did you have a blood test or was a swab taken of a sore? A blood test looks for antibodies and it takes most people 12-16 weeks post exposure to test positive for these antibodies. If you have had this virus for a few months, then it should show on a blood test, if this is a new infection, then it may not show on a blood test. A swab/culture of a sore needs to be done within 24-48 hours of the sore's appearance for there to be enough virus present for a good sample to be taken. Otherwise you could also get a false negative.

Once you get your results, you may wish to post them here so that they can be better interpreted for you. This virus can be managed once you know for sure what you do/do not have.

You are still you.


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Member since Sep-1-13
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Sep-01-13, 08:17 PM (CST)
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3. "RE: Feeling Terrible..."
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   as someone who contracted this from a guy who didnt tell me, and then decided to just say "dont worry about it, its not the end of the world just annoying. sorry" i dont think its right if you dont tell the person beforehand. i dont know how to help you tell them as im still trying to figure it out myself. im 22 and just starting my life also. this is awful and im sorry your dealing with it. but please dont take away someone elses freedom like that guy took mine. its just not fair

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Sep-03-13, 05:34 PM (CST)
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4. "RE: Feeling Terrible..."
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   You need to tell the person before you have sex with them or you will be the creep who gave me herpes.

Though the risk is small, most of us got it from someone who did not disclose it.


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