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h1cj1g
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Aug-23-12, 08:52 AM (CST)
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"Girlfriend of 4 years was diagnosed with HSV-2, is pushing me away and"
 
   Me and my girlfriend have been together for 4+ years now. She has been nothing but amazing to me, and I am so deeply in love with her. About three years into the relationship she was tested for HSV-2 and results were positive. I quickly got tested but results for HSV-2 came back negative for me (I was HSV-1 positive and knew this already). This was the start of toughest part of our relationship so far.

When she was diagnosed, of course my first thought was that she had cheated on me but eventually decided to keep us going. I told her that HSV-2 was of little concern to me, and that I was completely in love with her. Although I never said this, I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. Our intimacy was greatly affected by this. After a year of discomfort from her, and her neglect, she finally decided to push me away. She says that she is deeply in love with me but has lost herself and needs time to know herself. I have tried to be patient but just the thought of knowing that I could loose her always wins over and I contact her. She on the other hand is very cold and does not contact me. She also does not reciprocate affection back to me.

She is now going out with friends. She never drank with me and obviously never smoked cigarettes. I found out that she is now periodically smoking and drinking. She is acting like I don't exist and as though she doesn't care about me.

I would like to know if anyone has gone through this and if so what their outcome was? Do you think she is only using the HSV-2 as an excuse to end our relationship?

I love her dearly and do not want to loose her. Thanks!


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Herped
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Aug-23-12, 03:06 PM (CST)
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1. "RE: Girlfriend of 4 years was diagnosed with HSV-2, is pushing me away"
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   I'm sorry to hear this has happened to you.

It does sound to me like she is using HSV-2 as an excuse. It doesn't really make sense since you have the milder version and you're taking more of the risk.

Hopefully it's just a phase and she will get over it.


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notsosure2006
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Sep-07-12, 05:51 PM (CST)
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2. "RE: Girlfriend of 4 years was diagnosed with HSV-2, is pushing me away"
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   LAST EDITED ON Sep-07-12 AT 05:53 PM (CDST)
 
I have been married for years and my wife announced that she had this condition and that if I wanted sex anymore I would have to divorce her as she was not going to be responsible for giving me herpes. She was adamant in her declarations. I have stuck it out for five years (yeah I know this sounds like forever) but I do not know if I want to go through a divorce at this stage of life. Also It could be an excuse that her interest in sex had waned and this was a condition (herpes) that could be used as a way of not being intimate. I have no answers other than this is what happened in this camp.


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h1cj1g
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Sep-10-12, 09:33 AM (CST)
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3. "RE: Girlfriend of 4 years was diagnosed with HSV-2, is pushing me away"
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   Thanks for your reply... As an update. I tried giving her time but I have now decided to move on because I feel I did not deserve this from her part. At this point I believe a guilty conscience may have been the reason for her need of a "break". She more than likely was unfaithful to me and thus was tested + 3 years into our relationship.

I am in the process of awaiting my blood results and hope that I a can have a fresh clean start in my life after this. The way I see it is I did not lose her, she was simply never truly mine.

Thanks all for your help and I will follow up with my results.


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