Hey, it's been a while since I've come to racoon, and I just wanted to give an update. This site was so helpful for me when I was first diagnosed and freaking out. Now, I almost never think about H at all, but today, it crossed my mind that I should come on here and tell you guys-- your life is not over.
I was mortified when I had my first OB (and I was very sick, too.) I had GHSV1, but I did have OBs every 3-4 months at first. I was very ashamed, and I had a BF who perpetuated that shame (he treated me like I was dirty) Honestly, after that, I lied sometimes about my status, I avoided relationships, and I was miserable.
Now, I barely have OBs, but I did have one a month or so ago-- it lasted about 2 days and was really no big deal. I'm in a relationship with a gorgeous, loving, guy. When I told him about the H, he just said "okay." When I asked him how he felt about it, he just said, "well, I guess I'll get herpes sometime too." We've both "been around the block," so he knows how many people really have herpes. He stopped getting freaked out about it a long time ago. Anyway, my life is better now than ever. I know it's hard, but herpes is so common. Most people are more open-minded than you think, and if they're not, you really don't want to be with them.