So recently I was tested positive for genital hsv 1 (newbie to the HHP business). The sores lasted about two weeks, but it never hurt at all, only when I had to wipe after the loo, and now all is clear down there and everything has healed. As to where I got the herpes: My boyfriend has a history of cold sores and we were always careful not to kiss or engage in oral sex when a sore was present, however we had no idea about asymptomatic shedding or the transmission of oral to genital - education regarding 'cold sores' really needs to be jacked up in my opinion. Its been 11 months into our relationship (still so early), and we engage in very frequent oral sex - almost every day. I have had a bit of a juggling act with emotions and acceptance but I am getting there.
Anyway, the point of the post is that I absolutely adore this relationship and would like to keep it going while we have time to be together, despite this hiccup. We love each other, but are having to break up soon due to both of us moving to a different country for an indefinite amount of time. I am wanting to keep seeing him for the remainder of months we have together - which also includes sex (and lots of it). Therefore, please could anyone give me some advice on how to tell him that he has given the virus to me without sounding accusatory? I haven't found information or guidelines on this so far. Any appropriate links or advice would be much appreciated. I do not blame him for this, I take just as much responsibility for not educating myself on the matter. I just don't want to deliver the message in a way that burdens him with guilt and I want to know more than just the facts that I read in the herpes handbooks.... Like what is it actually like living with or dating someone with genital hsv1?
I feel pretty contaminated right now and I am incredibly nervous/anxious/scared to talk to him about it. It is affecting my studies (busy with exams) and I guess some answers and support would be appreciated. I know it is not the end of my world and that there definitely is hope for my future relationships, it is just a bit of a blow. After all, you would much rather be without it. But in the end, things could be worse I guess