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isa bella
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Jun-27-14, 00:33 AM (CST)
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"It finally happened!"
 
   After 8 years with HSV, I've got my "talk" down pretty good. I still find it nerve-wracking every time, but I always manage to get through and haven't had bad experiences telling.

So it was my 3rd date with a new gentleman, and I had decided to tell him that night. We were cooking dinner together at his house and in the middle of cutting some vegetables he just suddenly says there's something he wants to tell me...

...and basically, he revealed that he had HSV first!!!

This man had been married for over a decade with no symptoms, then during a time of intense stress he developed a rash. His MD prescribed a suppressive dose of Valganciclovir and told him he didn't really need to tell potential partners about his status unless he wanted to! -- anyways, this man told me honesty in relationships was important to him and he wanted to be up front about it.

It was his first time telling anyone.

He was incredibly relieved when he found out I had it too and it opened up a lot of really good conversation. He said, "I was worried you'd just run out the door." Then he added, "Even if I didn't have it, it wouldn't have mattered to me."

Revealing this information and having an open discussion about sexual health really brought us closer in a wonderful way. I just can't believe this is the first time I've had someone give me "The Talk" instead of the other way around.


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CuriousOne
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Jul-12-14, 05:24 PM (CST)
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1. "RE: It finally happened!"
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   WOW! talk about lucky!


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Rajahadmin
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Jul-12-14, 07:53 PM (CST)
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2. "Given the statistics.."
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it shouldn't be too uncommon. This one probably goes in the "Success Story" category, too.


"Do the Right Thing. It will gratify some people and astound the rest." - Paraphrased from Mark Twain


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Gone_87
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Oct-25-16, 09:25 PM (CST)
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3. "RE: It finally happened!"
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   I Love this!!


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Raven00144
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Oct-26-16, 04:19 PM (CST)
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   It is great to see you back and I love this also. As Raj says, this should not be so uncommon as it happened to me also. I was seeing a man and we went to breakfast one Saturday morning and he said he had something to tell me. I could tell he was nervous, so I suggested that we take a walk on the beach, I was already planning on discussing this with him, but saw what a mess he was that I, kept it to myself until he told me FIRST! ! ! We were together for 2 years and broke up for things other than HSV. I am now back with the man I should have married a long time ago and he and I both share this same virus. This virus is also a non issue with us. I hope you continue to be as happy as i am.

Raven00144


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Rajahadmin
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Oct-26-16, 09:41 PM (CST)
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5. "Thanks Raven00144"
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Now where is that "Like" button?

"Do the Right Thing. It will gratify some people and astound the rest." - Paraphrased from Mark Twain


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