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willyd
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Feb-10-16, 12:02 PM (CST)
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"how long to accept..."
 
   I met a guy online 9 months ago, we hit it off immediately. Unfortunately I did the big no no and didn't tell him about me having herpes until after we had protected sex. After telling him he did need a few weeks to take it all in but then decided that he wanted to continue to see me. He did express his feelings on how he was upset with the way I told him and that does break trust. I completely understand where he is coming from and totally regret the way things came out. fast forward now, to nine months later...I have developed strong feelings for this man, I absolutely adore him and enjoy every moment I get to share with him and can see him being in my future. Well this past weekend we had a little heart to heart and he expressed that at this point he's not ready to take it to the next level because he is still processing me having herpes and how I told him. He said he's also not saying its a deal breaker, he said that if he felt he wouldn't be able to take it to the next step that he would tell me. I just wonder if he will ever be able to come to terms with this. What is a normal time to accept this? I am sure that everyone is different, but I just wonder if I'm foolish for staying with him, I have already developed strong feelings for him and I guess I'm just a little bummed that this is still a bit of a road block. I wonder if I should talk to him more about it. We have talked about it in the past, I just don't want to constantly bring it up, but maybe I should. any advice is much appreciated...


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Rajahadmin
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I'm probably not the best one to comment on this as I've not found myself in the same situation, but, I will point out that you did not have unprotected sex so there was some reduction in the risk. The other thing is that the odds of his being infected from a single encounter with protection and in absence of symptoms on your part are extremely low.... All that said, there is still the trust issue which will take time and understanding. I would not over-do the discussion if he is still digesting..

"Do the Right Thing. It will gratify some people and astound the rest." - Paraphrased from Mark Twain


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