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pretty1lost
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Nov-19-08, 00:09 AM (CST)
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"Initial reaction?"
 
   Hey, just curious to know how everyone reacted to the initial diagnosis.

Personally, I always thought it would be best to marry young to avoid STDs. But from reading the posts, it seems like that might not even rule it out. I knew there was a greater risk of exposure with a greater number of partners however I figured if I stayed with one individual, then I would be somewhat immune. It just so happened that my ex boyfriend had slept with someone unprotected and caught something right before, and since I came next (granted he was clean from everything else...I asked for tests!), well...you know how it goes! At this point, there is no sure way to avoid it unless you are abstinent. (How many of us can do that?)LOL! When I found out, I didn't even cry...not that I was happy to say the least, but I was more inclined to think of treatment. I guess I figured, well, at least it isn't HIV/AIDS! Phew! Plus, I also researched my symptoms and was almost 100% sure I had HSVII before my doctor told me. I already conditioned my mind to deal with it. It's not the end of the world just a little more complicated, that's all! The one thought I did have was that I would really do serious harm to my ex if I ever saw him again. I did tell him that he needed to get checked but I know he already passed it 'cause he already had a new girlfriend by the time I found out. I don't think he's honest enough to tell anyone so he'll just keep passing it. Karma's a b1tch though so he'll get his in the end. And since he has already sketchy sexual habits, it's only a matter of time.

How about you? Granted everyone's situation is different but what were your initial thoughts/feelings?


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auntiejessiadmin
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Nov-19-08, 02:47 PM (CST)
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1. "RE: Initial reaction?"
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My initial reaction was much like yours - omg lets treat it and end this pain!

I was with a man I knew had herpes, so I didn't have the huge shock that most have, but I just kind of dealt with it like I would anything else. It sucks, but what else can I do but deal?

Aj

"In those times you seem to forget, I don't mind reminding you that you are a beautiful soul." ~ Cindy Campo

Paragraphs are beautiful things.

You can google, too.


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arham
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Jan-24-15, 01:57 AM (CST)
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2. "RE: Initial reaction?"
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   Yes I live in a rural area and there will always be those who gossip. I don't worry about what people say about me and don't let it bother me. My friends and family know I have herpes and since I treat it matter of factly so do they. But snitching friends aren't really your friends. Maybe your "friends" just need to be educated about herpes because I'm sure that some of them have herpes too and probably aren't even aware.

Lily lara


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3. "Bingo!"
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That great attitude is the best way to end the unfair stigma. There are a lot worse things than herpes.

"Do the Right Thing. It will gratify some people and astound the rest." - Paraphrased from Mark Twain


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