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POLL: Knowing what you know now about herpes, would you take suppressive antivirals and/or used condoms/dental dam for oral sex solely to prevent transmission if the only type of herpes you had was oral hsv1?
Posted by Angelika on Apr-22-09, 01:31 AM CST
Result after a total of 25 votes

Yes. I would do both b/c I would like to cut down the risk of transmission as much as possible 8 votes, 32% Vote for this choice
I would do both only if my partner tested negative for hsv1 and we mutually decided to take these precautions 2 votes, 8% Vote for this choice
Maybe condoms/dental dam if my partner asked for them and he/she tested negative for hsv1 but not suppressive antivirals No votes Vote for this choice
If my partner tested negative I would consider suppressive antivirals but not condoms/dental dam 5 votes, 20% Vote for this choice
Only in special circumstances such as my partner having lowered immunity for some reason 5 votes, 20% Vote for this choice
No 5 votes, 20% Vote for this choice
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Angelika
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Apr-22-09, 02:27 AM (CST)
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1. "Special circumstances only"
In response to message #0
 
   And only condoms/dental dam or maybe avoiding oral altogether. I would not take suppressive antivirals.

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Raven00144
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Apr-22-09, 05:35 AM (CST)
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2. "I would use . . . ."
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   LAST EDITED ON Apr-22-09 AT 05:37 AM (CST)
 
Knowing what I know NOW about HSVI, if I had it and not GHSVII, I would use whatever necessary to prevent transmission. Of course this would be a mutual decision between my partner and I.

Problem is most people do not know that oral cold sores are HSVI and can be transmitted via oral sex. Most people also do not ever remember having a cold sore so they do not know any of the above. Most people do not know that they have to have discussions before any sexual activity.

Since I am one in the know, and I do have GHSVII, I would do what ever to protect my partner that is mutually decided upon.

Raven00144


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graceadmin
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Apr-22-09, 03:38 PM (CST)
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3. "RE: I would use . . . ."
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I doubt I would do anything special because of my hsv1 besides talk about it with a partner like I do now unless either my partner had underlying health issues and was hsv1- or they asked me to take precautions.

grace

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zinnia
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Apr-22-09, 07:00 PM (CST)
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4. "purple"
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I voted purple, because I might very well give it to his face and he might never get it downstairs. Obviously, discussion and agreement would be involved. I hate condoms - so yicky and not pleasurable - so I only use them while "dating" vs. long term monogamous relationships.


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Angelika
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Apr-22-09, 08:22 PM (CST)
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5. "RE: purple"
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   LAST EDITED ON Apr-22-09 AT 08:33 PM (CST)
 
That is a good point zinnia. It's not like I would be ok with not kissing him or kissing him through a dental dam (and hopefully he wouldn't be either). So really it doesn't make much sense avoiding oral sex since chances are that oral infection would be worse with hsv1 since it prefers the oral area and it tends to recur and shed more there. I think that when I was thinking about avoiding oral or doing it with a barrier it was b/c I was thinking that genital infection would be somehow worse but that's again the deeply ingrained stigma talking.

But of course that would have to be up to the other person too, many if not most people do perceive genital herpes of any type to be worse than oral herpes so if this person was somehow more susceptible to getting infections then I can see he/she might decide to want to avoid oral sex altogether. There certainly has been people on these boards who claim they would have done that if they knew that hsv1 could be transmitted through oral sex.

I am not sure how that would make me feel. I don't know if it would make me break up with that person, I think it would if he didn't have any special health concerns but if the health concerns were there and he was somehow more susceptible to infections and he wanted to avoid oral or use condoms for it, I suppose I would understand why he would rather get herpes orally than genitally especially if the relationship wasn't long term or serious yet. But as far as being with someone long term who would want to avoid oral sex b/c of fear of getting genital herpes while he would be ok with kissing, I don't think I would be ok with that. So I probably would vote purple as well if I could change my vote.

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