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h1cj1g
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Aug-23-12, 08:36 AM (CST)
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"Girlfriend of 4 years was diagnosed with HSV-2, is pushing me away and"
 
   Me and my girlfriend have been together for 4+ years now. She has been nothing but amazing to me, and I am so deeply in love with her. About three years into the relationship she was tested for HSV-2 and results were positive. I quickly got tested but results for HSV-2 came back negative for me (I was HSV-1 positive and knew this already). This was the start of toughest part of our relationship so far.

When she was diagnosed, of course my first thought was that she had cheated on me but eventually decided to keep us going. I told her that HSV-2 was of little concern to me, and that I was completely in love with her. Although I never said this, I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. Our intimacy was greatly affected by this. After a year of discomfort from her, and her neglect, she finally decided to push me away. She says that she is deeply in love with me but has lost herself and needs time to know herself. I have tried to be patient but just the thought of knowing that I could loose her always wins over and I contact her. She on the other hand is very cold and does not contact me. She also does not reciprocate affection back to me.

She is now going out with friends. She never drank with me and obviously never smoked cigarettes. I found out that she is now periodically smoking and drinking. She is acting like I don't exist and as though she doesn't care about me.

I would like to know if anyone has gone through this and if so what their outcome was? Do you think she is only using the HSV-2 as an excuse to end our relationship?

I love her dearly and do not want to loose her. Thanks!


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Rajahadmin
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Aug-23-12, 03:41 PM (CST)
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it sounds to me like it's a lost cause. Cut your losses and get back in the dating pool. For whatever reason, she's pushing you away. She's the one that's got to change her mind. You can't do it for her.

"Do the Right Thing. It will gratify some people and astound the rest." - Paraphrased from Mark Twain


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DanielTaylor
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Oct-05-12, 12:50 PM (CST)
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Well. Be honest. I think she is now trying to avoid you and hence she is doing such bad things like smoking and drinking. You can tell her about it's side effects and try to convince her. If she loves you then she will come back to you again.


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diana_horton
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Dec-27-12, 05:12 PM (CST)
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   diana horton i am new to this site so after reading your post i was thinking about how i would feel. she may feel like she does not deserve you after she found out about her herpes. what made me think is she is doing things that she never did with you. i know there were times when i felt like crap i did things like that. denial maybe? i think you should keep tabs on her by checking in every once in awhile. sort of like a friend. i don't think she would be sleeping around, knowing what she has. tell her about this site and let her know much info is here. anyway give it a try. peace==diana


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