"An awesome coming out conversation"|
LAST EDITED ON Jun-23-11 AT 02:04 PM (CDST)|
So, as you guys might know, I'm polyamorous, so I have the "I have herpes" conversation fairly often. (It gets gradually easier, but it's still nerve-wracking for me.) I met a guy recently who is also polyamorous, and we really got along well. I was really worried that he would be too concerned about transmission, both to himself and then possibly to his primary girlfriend and his other partners, to consider dating me, and on top of it, he frequently talked about getting tested, being terrified of catching something, etc.
I told him anyway, and his first reaction was, "Do you know which type you have?" I was so happy that I was having the talk with someone who at least knows something about the virus. I told him which type I have (2), that I'm on meds, and I gave him all the stats (some of which he already knew!) He then said, "Well, with all the people that I sleep with, and with how easy it is to catch it, I'm sure I'll get it one day," and we continued the date. I've never had a really bad herpes conversation (just some people whom I never saw again after the talk), but that one was just so nice, since he already knew enough to fight some of the stigmas surrounding the virus.
Also, a friend made the joke that glitter is the herpes of craft supplies, and I sort of gave her a look, and she said that glitter's way worse because you can at least suppress herpes outbreaks, whereas you never know when you're going to take your bra off and find a glitter OB (I believe her exact words were "There's no such thing as glitter-cyclovir.") So there's a little herpes-related humor for ya.