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toughbreak
Member since Aug-21-08
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Jun-23-11, 09:51 PM (CST)
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"good story - i'm 2 for 2 now..."
 
   hi everyone, it's been a few years since i posted here but i wanted to share another success story because reading them helped me so much when i was first diagnosed with HSV2.

the story of my first telling experience is here:

http://racoon.com/dcforum/DCForumID9/455.html

the relationship from my first post recently ended, and in the past month or so i found myself becoming close with this guy i work with. we've been friends for a year - more than enough time to "vet" him and know that he's a totally decent person - but at 26, he's a few years younger than me, and with a little less life experience, i really wasn't sure how he'd take it.

it's been a while coming, and sure enough we were last two standing after happy hour a couple of fridays ago and i found myself making out with him in union square at 2:30am. a few days later we went on an actual date, and after capping off a great evening with a couple of cocktails, i decided that, even though sex wasn't going to come up that night and i hadn't been planning on telling him yet, i wanted to just get it over with.

as we were leaving the bar, i told him "let's take a walk." i figured that the conversation would feel easier if we were walking side by side and not having to face each other. so i started with something like "it's obvious we like each other, and if this keeps going the way it's going, we'll probably have sex at some point. so i just want to tell you something upfront... i have HSV. do you know what that is?" he said he didn't. "it's herpes." i knew i sounded matter-of-fact, which is exactly what i was going for, but i sure didn't feel that confident.

after letting the words out i think i babbled a little bit that he'd have only a small risk of catching it from me. it's kind of a blur, but he listened and then, shrugging, said, "okay... well that's not such a big deal." and he seemed so totally sincere when he said it that i wondered myself for a second why i'd been so nervous!

he went on to ask me a couple of questions, and then at some point between lots of hugs and kisses said those three magic words - "that doesn't matter." i was floored by how comfortable he made me, and he was floored by how honest i was with him.

it's been about a week and even though we haven't slept together yet, it's pretty clear that things with us are going to move forward from here. i'm so glad i did this when i did, rather than dragging out the anticipation. now we can worry about more important things - like how we are going to keep this under wraps at work!


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adriana21
Member since Aug-23-11
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Sep-02-11, 08:47 AM (CST)
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1. "RE: good story - i'm 2 for 2 now..."
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   the chic flick fan in me swears that the event could have been made into a book. I am so happy for you, hope to find a nice guy for me as well.

“God gives us tests not for Him
to see what we are made of, but
for us to see what we are made
up of”


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Acceptance702
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Sep-13-11, 10:36 PM (CST)
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2. "RE: good story - i'm 2 for 2 now..."
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   Thank you for sharing both of your stories. I am 25 and female and was diagnosed a couple of weeks ago with HSV2. Both of your stories got me out of the slump I've been in today.


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Kismet
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Sep-29-11, 01:42 AM (CST)
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3. "RE: good story - i'm 2 for 2 now..."
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   Thank you. I really needed that story today.


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SmithWilson
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Dec-28-11, 00:09 AM (CST)
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4. "RE: good story - i'm 2 for 2 now..."
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   LAST EDITED ON Dec-28-11 AT 00:12 AM (CDST)
 
Quite inspirational for all. One can learn a lot from such stories and experiences.



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matt51
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Feb-06-12, 11:15 PM (CST)
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5. "RE: good story - i'm 2 for 2 now..."
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   The title of this thread is very fitting for me as well. I havent made too much of an effort to date outside of the H pool, but i have given a few of the dating sites a try, and after getting this at 21, have managed to have 2 awesome, pretty, smart, caring just really great girls for ex girlsfriends haha. Sort of a shitty way to end that sentence, but i dont regret either at all. You can meet quality people a lot of ways. That isnt to say you cant date outside H.

I actually met my last gf, on an H dating site, she hadnt been properly diagnosed and just assumed she had it. After falling in love, moving to LA, and dating for over a year, after months and months of talking before dating i finally made her get offically tested. She didnt have H. I freaked out, overacted and considered breaking up with her, i even tried. She wouldnt let me, and wanted to continue dating me. H was something she never worried about, or judged me for. I did hate the stress any time she would ever have anything resembling a skin pigmet slight difference anywhere on her lower half, she loved me, and that mattered a lot more H.


In a way this is a sucess story of a variety of sorts. I am single now, and cant say im thrilled with dating. I find myself slowly losing motivation and becoming even more gaurded, which is one of the worst things you can do, but when i think back to how lucky and relatively easy it was for me to meet some wonderful girls it makes me at least a little more positive.



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