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Oct-04-11, 09:03 AM (CST)
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"I need advice"
   -caught in a nightmare
I have recently been left in a relationship that I was sure was going great. I couldn't have been more wrong. Not only did I have to deal with this loss, but I have now been informed by my OBGYN (during fertility testing) that I have been exposed to HSV2. In other words I have tested positive for the antibody. I have never had an outbreak. I still communicate with my ex before this one. I called him up, devastated, and explained to him that I had tested positive for this. I suggested that he get tested, even though it had been over a year since we were intimate. (I feel ashamed now that I thought him to be the one who had given it to me) He has been married since we were together and tested negative. I don't know how long the virus can lay dormant in a person, but this lead me to believe that the man that just ended things with me actually gave it to me. He had requested that we never speak again since he decided to "work things out" with his ex. I did the hardest thing I think I have ever done in my life...I left a private message, and sent him a text to let him know it was urgent. That was last week and still no response. There were things he said now that lead me to believe it was him and that he knew. Either way,I guess I will never know if he thought I was just trying to get him to talk to me. I am in my late 30's and going through this alone. I feel like my life is over. My family thinks I should get a second opinion, but what are the chances? I have had HSV1 since I was a young girl and the score for that was higher than the HSV2. If anyone can help guide me through this even a little, I would be sincerely greatful...

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Oct-04-11, 09:41 AM (CST)
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1. "RE: I need advice"
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   You can post your test results if you would like someone to interpret them to be sure that you got the proper testing done. The scores of the tests don't matter as long as the results are in the positive range and you had the proper testing done.

A lot of times when someone has HSV1, they will not get symptoms of HSV2. You will never know if you had this for years or got this from your most recent relationship. Ultimately, it doesn't matter. So if it's more painful to try and contact this guy, just let it go. We're all responsible for our own sexual health and should be getting tested before we have new partners.

Sometimes getting to the place where you can deal with this emotionally is just a matter of perspective and loosing the stigma that you are carrying in your mind. Are you "devastated" by having HSV1? Why not? Does having a positive blood test for a really common sexually transmitted virus make you a bad person? Does having sex make you a bad person?

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Oct-29-11, 00:07 AM (CST)
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   you're not alone girl. It's a scary thing, but we will get through it I just got diagnosed myself. I was SO scared... it's still setting in, but just know, you are not alone.

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