I'm posting this under success stories because I have successfully accepted having HSV2 and just want to share some supportive words to those still having a hard time accepting.
I actually just found out 4 days ago, although I had suspected something was wrong for about a year. After a few negative tests (blood and swab) I finally got a positive on another blood test I took. Ironically, the news came more as a relief because at least now I knew what I was dealing with and could move on without all the question marks and "what if's".
Over the past year I experienced the same mental anguish and feelings of disgust, anger, hate, worry, fear of rejection, etc. that many say they feel after learning they have H. Recently, I found this site (before I got my results) and found the support and positive feedback to be very encouraging.
That said, I just want to reach out to those who are still having a hard time, especially when it comes to dating and let you know IT IS OKAY. Even though it may not seem like it now, it is not the end of the world. You are still the amazing, beautiful, wonderful person you were before you got diagnosed and you absolutely WILL find your true love. The first step though in other people accepting you for who you are is accepting yourself. This goes for all aspects of your life and not just H. Also, to those who think they will never have sex again or your life can never be normal, it can, and it will, if YOU allow it to. I've joined a dating site for people with H and I look forward to meeting some new friends or potential mates. I think it will be a great way to ease the transition. I also joined a meet up group for H and look forward to meeting others who have this in common. It's like all of a sudden I'm part of this new special club and I have all these new friends to meet and we already have something very unique in common
I do however, plan on dating people without H and while I'd be lying if I said that I don't dread "the talk", I am willing to take my chances as life is too short not to.
Also, one other word of advice. please don't be scared or embarrassed to tell your friends or family. They already love and adore you and I can assure you telling you have H is not going to change that. You deserve that support and if you're anything like me will want to have someone to talk to who can help give you some perspective and kind words.
If anyone is ever feeling down and out, feel free to email me. I would be happy to lift your spirits and put a smile on your face