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klfr
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Mar-11-16, 11:33 PM (CST)
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"How Often do I need to repeat The Tell?"
 
   Hi Everyone, long time since I was last here, which is a good thing I guess? I need a little input and maybe reassurance on a situation...

There's someone I've been involved with on and off for the past 6.5 years. It's a long distance relationship, and we frequently go long long periods of time without seeing each other but stay in touch on a regular basis. He does not have herpes. When we first got together, I was upfront about my H status and he was accepting of it. We always used condoms when we were together. After telling him initially all those years ago, I've never discussed it with him again. We didn't see each other for three years and then had an opportunity to spend some time together a few weeks ago. How do I put this.. he surprised me at the door and before I knew it we were having sex... without a condom. After that first time, I didn't bother for the rest of the weekend. He had a big box of them there, he just never used them and I didn't remind him.

Now I'm feeling awful, and concerned for him. Should I have continually reminded him about my status given the breaks in time between our times together? If it's been almost a month, I am hoping that he's "in the clear" but I know that really isn't the case.

Ok, give me your thoughts. I can take it.


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Rajahadmin
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Apr-05-16, 10:09 PM (CST)
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1. "My thoughts... Sorry it took so long to give them."
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You told him and he accepted it. I'm sure he's not forgotten. You did your duty and are in the clear as far as I am concerned.

"Do the Right Thing. It will gratify some people and astound the rest." - Paraphrased from Mark Twain


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graceadmin
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Apr-06-16, 09:05 AM (CST)
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2. "RE: My thoughts... Sorry it took so long to give them."
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I'd be more concerned that you had unprotected sex with a partner whose std status you are not fully aware of since he is not a regular partner. Are you planning on following up with full std testing at the appropriate times?

grace

The first step in stopping the perceived stigma about genital herpes - is to stop believing in it yourself


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Avatarashi
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Nov-12-16, 10:21 PM (CST)
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3. "RE: My thoughts... Sorry it took so long to give them."
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   Grace, I found your answers very helpful and informative. I had unprotected sex with a guy I have know for over 4 months who showed me his negative test results for HIV, syphillus, gonohrea, and chlamydia. I forgot to enquire about his status for herpes and hepatitis - later when I enquired he reassured me that he was negative but I have painful sore in my mouth 5 days later. Followed by flu and cold symptoms and muscle and body aches. Later when I asked him it turned out that he never got tested for herpes or hepatitis. I got myself tested for all std's that week but results came negative except hsv2. It is 4 weeks now and I have been sick throughout with multiple mouth sores that I have never had before. Now I am down with strep throat. What are the advisable timeframes to get retested - 6 weeks and then 6 months again. I am concerned that I may have been exposed to sth since I have been sick for 4 weeks straight. My doctor keeps reassuring me that chances of getting HIV or hep is very low. Your advice would be really appreciated!


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