Hello Mr. Rajah,
First of all thank you so much for taking the time to reply. You have no idea how much this means to me. Yes, I do have lots of questions. I have been doing my research and reading up on this topic since yesterday. Before I begin asking my questions I would like to get my facts right. So I am going to post all that I know about this issue so far. Please let me know if I am right and feel free to correct me when I have gotten the wrong idea.
1.HSV-1 and HSV-2 both can either affect the mouth or genitals but type 1 mostly affects the mouth and type 2 affects the genitals.
2. Both viruses can be spread via skin to skin contact even a brief 1 second one.
3. Oral herpes can cause genital herpes during oral sex and vice versa.
4. Even when there are no visible sores there is something called virus shedding going on which can transfer the virus to others.
5. The HSV can affect different parts of the body and can cause breakouts on different areas such as shoulders, legs etc.(Although I am not sure if both types can do this or not)
6. Many people don't have any symptoms and not even break outs.
7. Many people have HSV which they contracted at a young age by being kissed by an infected adult( I think that's how I got it)
I have never had any sexual contact, oral or other wise. The doctor diagnosed me with a blood test called HSV-1, IgG where the result value came out as 27.68 COI (not sure what that means though). He mentioned that I have antibodies for herpes in my blood. HSV-2,IgG result came out as <0.50
I don't kiss people and don't greet other with kisses. I suffer from OCD and am a bit of a germaphobe so I don't think I will be giving it to anyone else hopefully as I maintain minimal physical contact with people. My only concern is my wife and and future children.
1. You mentioned that if there are no obvious symptoms present then chances of transmission are still there but very slim. You also mentioned that you have had HSV-1 since childhood and have never transmitted to your wife, children or grand children. I would like to know how? Did you take any medicine or special precautions. Or was it a risk that you took thinking that chances to transmit are low so you did nothing about it and hoped for best.(P.S in case this question sounded rude I didn't mean it that way. Not sure how else to phrase it).
2. Is there anything I can do to make sure I don't give it to my wife?
3. I have read that using contraception while taking anti viral medicines greatly reduces the risk. This fact was not properly explained on the sites. Am I supposed to take them for life, only during outbreaks or in some other way?
4. How can I tell if I am having an outbreak. What are the signs. I am asking this because either I don't think I have had any outbreak, had 1 or 2 in my childhood or had them but mistook them for something else.
5. Most importantly how do I talk to my wife about it and should I get her tested as well?
6. I can't imagine doing it but am still asking it. Will it be a big deal if I don't tell her about it seeing how common it is. I know this seems wrong but wanted to get another person's opinion on this.
I sincerely apologize for this big wall of text. Please answer as many as you can in your free time and I humbly thank you for your help.