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WanderingLoner
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"Diagnosed with HSV 1 but still a virgin. HELP!!!"
 
   Hello everyone,
I just got a positive blood test report for HSV 1 and need your help.

I am a very religious person and have never had any form of sexual contact with anyone. Not even kissed a girl. In fact the only times I was naked in front of another person was a doctor during a medical check up. I was saving myself for my wife. My wedding is 1 month away and I got tested for STDs as a precaution. I tested positive for HSV-1 and negative for HSV-2.

It is driving me insane. Can anyone suggest how is it possible for a person like me to catch this disease. And now that I have it I have a few questions.

1. Can I ever kiss my wife without infecting her or am I always contagious?
2. Can I ever kiss my children?
3. Is oral sex off the table?
4. Any form of advice such as precautions and the like will be greatly appreciated.

Thank you for your time and help.
Regards,
WanderingLoner


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  Subject     Author     Message Date     ID  
  If you were diagnosed by a blood test with HSV-1 ... Rajahadmin Jul-13-16 1
     RE: If you were diagnosed by a blood test with HSV-1 ... WanderingLoner Jul-14-16 2
         More answers... Rajahadmin Jul-15-16 3
             RE: More answers... WanderingLoner Jul-18-16 4
                 Good questions Rajahadmin Jul-18-16 5
                     RE: Good questions WanderingLoner Jul-19-16 6
                         More answers Rajahadmin Jul-23-16 7
                             RE: More answers WanderingLoner Jul-26-16 8
                                 RE: More answers Raven00144 Jul-26-16 9
                                     RE: More answers Raven00144 Jul-27-16 10

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Rajahadmin
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Jul-13-16, 09:29 PM (CST)
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1. "If you were diagnosed by a blood test with HSV-1 ..."
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and have not had sexual contact, you almost certainly have it as oral herpes, AKA, cold sores or fever blisters. The majority of adults will test positive for HSV-1. There is a good chance that your fiance' might test positive for it. It's not a big deal.

1. Can I ever kiss my wife without infecting her or am I always contagious? Unless you have obvious cold sore symptoms, the chances of transmitting it are very slim, not absolute zero, but very slim.

2. Can I ever kiss my children? I have 5 children and now, 10 grandchildren. I have had HSV-1 since I was a very young child and have not transmitted to any of them, nor to my wife who is HSV negative. In absence of symptoms herpes is not easily transmitted.

3. Is oral sex off the table? See above.

4. Any form of advice such as precautions and the like will be greatly appreciated. Let us know if you have additional questions

"Do the Right Thing. It will gratify some people and astound the rest." - Paraphrased from Mark Twain


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WanderingLoner
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Jul-14-16, 08:52 AM (CST)
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2. "RE: If you were diagnosed by a blood test with HSV-1 ..."
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   Hello Mr. Rajah,

First of all thank you so much for taking the time to reply. You have no idea how much this means to me. Yes, I do have lots of questions. I have been doing my research and reading up on this topic since yesterday. Before I begin asking my questions I would like to get my facts right. So I am going to post all that I know about this issue so far. Please let me know if I am right and feel free to correct me when I have gotten the wrong idea.

1.HSV-1 and HSV-2 both can either affect the mouth or genitals but type 1 mostly affects the mouth and type 2 affects the genitals.

2. Both viruses can be spread via skin to skin contact even a brief 1 second one.

3. Oral herpes can cause genital herpes during oral sex and vice versa.

4. Even when there are no visible sores there is something called virus shedding going on which can transfer the virus to others.

5. The HSV can affect different parts of the body and can cause breakouts on different areas such as shoulders, legs etc.(Although I am not sure if both types can do this or not)

6. Many people don't have any symptoms and not even break outs.

7. Many people have HSV which they contracted at a young age by being kissed by an infected adult( I think that's how I got it)

I have never had any sexual contact, oral or other wise. The doctor diagnosed me with a blood test called HSV-1, IgG where the result value came out as 27.68 COI (not sure what that means though). He mentioned that I have antibodies for herpes in my blood. HSV-2,IgG result came out as <0.50

I don't kiss people and don't greet other with kisses. I suffer from OCD and am a bit of a germaphobe so I don't think I will be giving it to anyone else hopefully as I maintain minimal physical contact with people. My only concern is my wife and and future children.

1. You mentioned that if there are no obvious symptoms present then chances of transmission are still there but very slim. You also mentioned that you have had HSV-1 since childhood and have never transmitted to your wife, children or grand children. I would like to know how? Did you take any medicine or special precautions. Or was it a risk that you took thinking that chances to transmit are low so you did nothing about it and hoped for best.(P.S in case this question sounded rude I didn't mean it that way. Not sure how else to phrase it).

2. Is there anything I can do to make sure I don't give it to my wife?

3. I have read that using contraception while taking anti viral medicines greatly reduces the risk. This fact was not properly explained on the sites. Am I supposed to take them for life, only during outbreaks or in some other way?

4. How can I tell if I am having an outbreak. What are the signs. I am asking this because either I don't think I have had any outbreak, had 1 or 2 in my childhood or had them but mistook them for something else.

5. Most importantly how do I talk to my wife about it and should I get her tested as well?

6. I can't imagine doing it but am still asking it. Will it be a big deal if I don't tell her about it seeing how common it is. I know this seems wrong but wanted to get another person's opinion on this.

I sincerely apologize for this big wall of text. Please answer as many as you can in your free time and I humbly thank you for your help.

Best Regards,
WanderingLoner


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Rajahadmin
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3. "More answers..."
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I'll begin by addressing point #2 in your "facts" section. In general, normal intact skin is a very good barrier against most pathogens. Otherwise, we'd have infections all over our bodies every day. The vulnerable places are where the skin has been compromised in some way, such as a scratch, cut or burn. Mucous membranes such as the lips or parts of the genitals are somewhat more vulnerable. Also it is usually thought that transmission of the herpes virus involves some friction, too. In a study a few years ago of sexually active couples where one partner had HSV2 genitally and the other did not, the annual transmission rate in absence of any precautions, was 4%.

In the lower section, question #1, in all that time, the only thing I did to avoid transmission was to avoid risky contact when I had obvious symptoms. I don't consider your question rude at all, by the way. It's a reasonable question and we like reasonable questions here.

2. I have genital HSV2. My wife knew I had it well before we got sexually active and was not bothered by it. The only precaution that I take is to use antivirals daily as a suppressive measure.

3. I have not read that. My wife and I are of an age where contraception is not an issue.

4. If you are having an outbreak, you will know it. Oral HSV manifests as sore, or at least itchy area that develops tiny blisters with clear fluid in them. The blisters tend to merge and become a sore spot that eventually breaks open and the scabs over. Hard to miss.

5. I would just tell her that you wanted her to be aware that you had cold sores as a child and it's probably not going to be much of an issue and ask if she ever had them. Testing is OK, but not mandatory since a majority of adults have it.

6. It's your call on this. It's really not a big deal in the greater scheme of things as far as I'm concerned since it's so common.

"Do the Right Thing. It will gratify some people and astound the rest." - Paraphrased from Mark Twain


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WanderingLoner
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Jul-18-16, 06:57 AM (CST)
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4. "RE: More answers..."
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   Hello again Mr. Rajah,

Thank you for your timely replies. I would like some more clarification on you second answer. You mentioned that the only precaution you took is take antivirals daily as a suppressive measure. Could you please elaborate on this point a little more.

Like did you take them daily for life or only if you felt like an outbreak coming.

Did you experience any long term side effects from the medicines?

Which antiviral did you take?

Will it be safe to take the antiviral medicines even when I am not having an outbreak just as a precaution?

Once again thank you for all your help. I really appreciate it.

Best Regards,
WanderingLoner


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Rajahadmin
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5. "Good questions"
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I have taken famvir daily for a number of years. This is called using the antivirals suppressively. I have had no side effects. The herpes antivirals have a very good safety record, in spite of what some of the web sites that are selling fear and alternative treatments that really don't work might say. These drugs are FDA approved. The scam treatments are not.

"Do the Right Thing. It will gratify some people and astound the rest." - Paraphrased from Mark Twain


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WanderingLoner
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Jul-19-16, 02:49 PM (CST)
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6. "RE: Good questions"
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   Hello Mr. Rajah,

Thank you very much for your replies. They have put my mind at ease. I appreciate it very much. Just 3 more questions for you:

1. What dosage of famvir do you take to use it suppressively?(how many mg and how many times daily?)

2.Is it a prescription only medicine or can I buy it over the counter?

3. I have been having a tingling sensation all over my face and burning around my lips since morning (about 12 hours) is this the sign of the beginning of a break out?

Thank you for all your help.

Best regards,
WanderingLoner


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7. "More answers"
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1. 125 mg of Famvir twice a day, every day for several years.

2. It is by prescription. I didn't have any trouble getting my doctor to give me a prescription, but your mileage may vary. We have a new sponsor that offers FDA approved meds online with their doctor consulting with you and authorizing the prescription that they then fill.

3. All over your face? No, that is not at all typical of oral herpes. Oral herpes is usually just one or a few small areas on or near the lips.

You are more than welcome. Please let us know if we can help further.


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WanderingLoner
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Jul-26-16, 07:44 AM (CST)
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8. "RE: More answers"
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   Hello there Mr. Rajah,

Thank you very much for all your help and replies. They have greatly helped me. For now all my questions have been answered but every once in a while if I do have any more questions I will ask them here. Till then you have helped me a lot and have put my mind at ease. Thank you very much for your help and keep up the good work. This is a great and a helpful site.

Best regards,
WanderingLoner


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Raven00144
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9. "RE: More answers"
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   This is the place to ask questions and Raj is the man to answer them.

Oral HSVI can be passed to your partner's genitals via oral sex even in the absence of systems. Most adults will test positive for HSVI as well as 1 in 4 women and 1 in 5 men for HSVII. Many to not know that they have the virus as they have never has any sysmptons. Before being intimate with your new wife or wife to be, I would suggest that she get tested also. IF you both share the save virus, you cannot pass it back and forth no matter where the location is.

There are three antiviral meds on the market--acyclovir, valtrex and famvir--all effective for subpression and transmission of genital HSVII. To my knowledge,there have not been any studies on how effective these drugs are on oral HSVI.

Yes, this is a great and helpful site. You may feel free to ask any questions and the great people here will respond.
Raven00144


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10. "RE: More answers"
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   Wow--all those typos I made. Hard to believe that I sit at a computer and type most days. I hope you can figure out what I was saying.

Raven00144


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